Why did you eat that for breakfast? Why do you live in that city? Why do you work there? Why are you friends with that person? Why do you do what you do? You make decisions all the time, but have you ever really thought about why you made them. Have you ever examined your motives? Deep down inside you may be making decisions in life because of a specific motivation. Some people are motivated by power and control while others just want peace and love. Some are looking for success and others just want comfort. Your motives whether you realize it or not are dictating your decisions. That could be a good thing but it could also be a bad thing. What if your motives are NOT healthy? What can you do about it?
Pull the weeds
As much as I would love to have a plush, green lawn, it just is not meant to be. I have ugly weeds in my yard that I hate. I know that if I just mow them down, they will return in a couple days and multiply. The way to remove them is to pull them out by the root. Then, they will not come back. Weeds in the lawn are like ugly motives in your heart. King Solomon spoke many proverbs to his son to help him become wise. I am also much wiser for studying them. In Proverbs 4:23 he said, “Above all else, guard your heart for everything you do flows from it.” The heart is where your motives live. Everything you do comes from your heart’s desires. This is why it is so important to dig deep and examine your heart. When you examine your heart’s motives, you may discover a weed. The right thing to do is to pull the weed out from the root. An ugly, selfish motive is a weed that is driving poor decisions. PULL IT OUT. It is making your life ugly. What if the weed is stubborn? Sometimes my yard gets dry and hard and the weed is deep. That is when I use a special garden tool to dig it out. Sometimes your selfish motives are so deep that you may require a tool to get them out. That tool is usually help from someone else. A personal coach, friend or counselor can help you dig it out those weeds and make positive changes.
The Ability to Change
Growing up, I was a very selfish and manipulative person. If I wanted something, then I figured out how to get it. I used to pride myself on how I could sweet talk my way in and out of any situation. Then, one day a friend called me out. She helped me realize that I developed quite a negative reputation. I did not like it and I was embarrassed by my selfish and manipulative reputation. So, I decided to change. Coincidentally, at the same time in my life, I was looking for a greater purpose in life. I found my purpose and the ability to change when I discovered Christianity. I no longer viewed myself as the center of the universe. Rather, I understood that the world actually revolves around the God who created everything. I began to serve others more than myself and I loved it. By no means am I perfect. However, I have changed a lot and that is my point. Anyone can change! Over the past 20 years, I have developed a new reputation as an honest and trustworthy man. Even the smallest things, like whether or not I touched the basketball last before it went out of bounds, people trust that I will not lie to them. I love having integrity.
Nobody likes to be cheated, right? Con artists are everywhere today which makes everyone skeptical. Whatever happened to good, honest people? Where are the dokimos? Author and theologian, Donald Barnhouse said this about the Greek word, dokimos which is translated in English to the word, examined. He wrote, “In the ancient world there was no banking system as we know it today, and no paper money. All money was made from metal, heated until liquid, poured into molds and allowed to cool. When the coins were cooled, it was necessary to smooth off the uneven edges. Many cheats would shave down the coins too much. Basically, they cheated the system. But some money changers were men of integrity, who would accept no counterfeit money. They were men of honor who put only genuine, full-weighted money into circulation. Such men were called, dokimos.” I wish everyone was a dokimos. I would like a world with less people that only look out for themselves and more people I can trust to have my best interests in mind. I am thinking you do as well. So, begin with yourself. Examine your motives, pull the weeds and make positive change. I believe you can do it.
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